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Healthy Relationships Continuum and Charts

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All relationships exist on a continuum, ranging from healthy to unhealthy, with abusive at the extreme end. Relationships are not stationary. Rather they evolve and change depending on different situations or stressors.

A couple may naturally move back and forth between the healthy and stressed zones. If relationship issues are in the unhealthy zone they may need external support or intervention like therapy to help them get better. Unhealthy relationships can quickly escalate to an abusive situation.

The Healthy Relationships Continuum is modelled after the Mental Health Continuum color spectrum. However, it does not imply that being injured or ill (orange/red zone) necessitates that your relationship is the same colored zone. It is important to understand that no matter what zone you may be in on the Mental Health Continuum, it does not provide justification for engaging in unacceptable behavior or mistreating a partner. If you are engaging in these types of behaviors, or believe yourself at risk to do so, seek help immediately.

If any part of the relationship is in the abusive zone, a person’s physical safety is the priority. External support and intervention is critical.

If you feel you are in immediate danger, reach out to the authorities or call 911.

Healthy Relationships Continuum 

When you think about the health of your relationship, are you in the green, yellow, orange, or red zone?

HealthyStressedUnhealthyAbusive
  • Equality 
  • Respect
  • Trust
  • Communication
  • Safety​
  • Pressure 
  • Dishonesty
  • Lack of communication​
  • Manipulation 
  • Guilt and shame
  • Isolation​
  • Control 
  • Volatility
  • Violence​

The relationship supports each partner’s balance, wellbeing and sense of self.

There is joy, peace, predictability and self-esteem. Partners have similar feelings about their relationship.

The relationship changes from a place of relative stability and predictability to a place of tension and uncertainty.

The relationship affects and disrupts a partner’s balance, well-being, and sense of self.

There is isolation, guilt, shame, unpredictability, and low self-esteem.

Within the relationship, emotional, verbal, sexual, physical, financial, and/or social harm are occurring.

This is known as intimate partner violence. The relationship is unhealthy and unsafe.


This resource was updated in collaboration with WomanACT.

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