here are a few tips on how to comfort someone effectively and respectfully:
- Show him that you're there for him and that you care. You can say things like: "I'm here for you, if you need to talk or anything. "1 or "I'm thinking a lot about you and your family. "
- Listen with attention and empathy. Don't judge, criticize or give unsolicited advice. Let him express his emotions and thoughts without interrupting or contradicting him. You can ask him open-ended questions to encourage him to talk, such as: "How are you feeling today?" or "Do you want to tell me about (a deceased person, for example)? "
- Make comforting gestures, such as holding hands, giving a hug, smiling, stroking the back. These gestures can convey more than words, and soothe the pain. Of course, you have to respect the person's limits and preferences. If they don't like physical contact, or if they ask for it, don't force them.3
- Suggest activities that may distract or relax him/her, such as watching a film, going for a walk, playing a game, doing sports, meditating, etc. These activities may help him/her to relax. These activities can help take his mind off things, relieve stress and make him feel better in body and mind. Don't force him to do anything he doesn't want to do, but be available and flexible.
- Be patient and understanding.Don't pressure him to get better or move on.Everyone has their own pace and way of coping with suffering.Respect his process and support him through the difficult times. You can say things like: "Take the time you need to get better "1 or "I can't know what you're going through, but know that I'm here to help you in any way I can. "
- In short, to comfort someone, you need to be present, attentive, affectionate, respectful and patient. This can make a big difference in the person's life and strengthen your bond with them. Don't forget to take care of yourself either, as comforting someone can be emotionally taxing. If you need help, don't hesitate to talk to someone you trust or to a professional.
Employee Assistance Program (EAP)
Up to 8 sessions may be possible with a psychologist or social worker, in complete confidentiality.
CAF Health Service
Local emergency resources - 911
Military or civilian police
Your chain of command
Duty Chaplain - ext. 661-3960
Family Information Line - 1-800-866-4546
LIFELINE Canada Foundation - 1-833-456-4566
National SOS Suicide Line - 1-800-273-8255
Provincial or local crisis lines
