Dealing with Unemployment

The Challenges of Employment for Military Spouses

Frequent relocations every two, three, or four years can be particularly challenging for military families, especially when it comes to employment. For many spouses, these moves pose significant obstacles to career continuity. This challenge intensifies when the relocation is outside Canada, as the excitement of an OUTCAN assignment can quickly be overshadowed by employment uncertainties.

Navigating Complexities in the U.S.

Moving to the U.S. often introduces additional complexities. Unlike a move within Canada, spouses must secure a work authorization document and an American Social Security number. For professionals, the barriers can be even greater, as many Canadian qualifications are not fully recognized in the U.S. This may require going back to school to upgrade credentials, complete additional courses, or pass exams—an often time-consuming and costly process, especially in an education system that can be more expensive than Canada’s. Is it worth sacrificing a year of a three-year assignment to retrain? And let’s not forget the significant loss of income that comes with being out of the workforce. While the Forces provide some compensation, it usually falls short of making up for the lost salary. Career progression can also be affected, with delays in advancing up the pay scale and contributing to pension plans. In a time of rising cost-of-living inflation, the financial strain is even more pronounced.

The Emotional Impact of Unemployment

For some, the initial period of unemployment after a move might feel like a welcome relief, offering extra time to settle in and support children adjusting to a new school system. Some may even view it as an opportunity to explore their new surroundings. However, after a while, the absence of work may lead to a sense of loss.

Losing a job can create feelings of diminished financial independence and social isolation, as work is often a key avenue for building connections. This can lead to feelings of worthlessness, guilt, and a blow to self-esteem. It may also stir frustration toward the military lifestyle, potentially affecting relationships with partners or children.

Coping Strategies for Employment Gaps

So, how can military spouses navigate the negative effects of unemployment or not working? The first step is to reflect on what your job provided for you. What needs did it fulfill, and how can those needs be met outside of work?

Here are some strategies to consider:

1. Explore Other Avenues to Fulfill Your Needs
   Can you meet the emotional, social, or intellectual needs your job once addressed through other activities? Identify your interests and talents. Could this be a good time to develop new skills or even switch careers?

2. Engage in Enjoyable Activities
   Take up a hobby or learn a new skill—perhaps knitting, sewing, or volunteering. Explore volunteer opportunities through local military support groups or the USO. Participate in social activities organized by other military spouses, or check out programs at the local Air/Army/Navy readiness center. These activities can help you connect with others and enjoy your new surroundings.

3. Challenge Negative Thoughts
   Recognize that our thoughts are not always facts. Negative thinking often involves distortions or biases that can be questioned and reframed. Remember, this situation is temporary, and it does not define your worth.

4. Stay Physically Active
   Physical activity offers both mental and physical benefits. Try engaging in a form of exercise you enjoy—whether it’s dancing, yoga, or a workout app. Staying active can help elevate your mood and energy levels.

5. Communicate and Seek Support
   Share your thoughts and feelings with your partner or a trusted friend. Military spouses often feel guilt about not working, and opening up can provide emotional relief. Consider talking to a family member, another spouse, or a professional from Military Family Support Services (MFSS), Family Information Line, or the Military Member and Family Assistance Program (MFAP).

6. Seek Professional Help if Needed
   Don’t hesitate to access available resources, including professional counseling, to navigate any emotional challenges you may be facing.

Helpful Resources for Military Spouses:

• CFMWS Employment Support for Military & Veteran Spouses
• Facebook Group: Military Family Services Spousal Employment
• MySECO: A U.S. DoD resource created to provide education and career guidance to military spouses worldwide and offers comprehensive resources and tools for all stages of your career progression.

While the challenges of frequent relocations and employment gaps can feel overwhelming, there are many resources and strategies available to help military spouses maintain a sense of purpose, connection, and fulfillment during these transitions.