As we prepare to celebrate the Christmas holidays, we will inevitably hear popular themes, and phrases, such as Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and Season’s Greetings or words associated with this time of the year, peace, love, hope or joy. Words that are meant to be inspiring, comforting and familiar, words that have positive connotations. For instance, the word joy. Joy is an all-encompassing sense of happiness, a very intense spiritual feeling for some. Children may express joy when they excitedly open their gifts on Christmas morning or when family members reunite after a period of separation.
Feelings of joy may be triggered by previous experiences. Childhood memories may be associated with positive aspects about the holidays, time with family and friends, and engaging in festive activities such as decorating the Christmas tree or partaking in an abundant Christmas meal. Joy may be felt when carrying on traditions, opening one gift on Christmas Eve, enjoying fresh-out-of-the-oven cookies or belting out your version of Bing’s White Christmas.
Joy may be elusive if you are feeling overwhelmed by holiday preparations, stressed due to financial hardship or longing for the company of a loved one who may not be with you because of death, distance or estrangement. What can be done to make the holidays joyous again for us and others?
Steps can be taken to enjoy the holidays to the fullest, such as monitoring our budgets, not accepting too many invitations and making sure you get the appropriate rest. In addition, 3 tips to bring joy back into Christmas is as follows:
- Let Go of Christmas Perfectionism – I once read comparison is the thief of joy, and this statement certainly lends itself to the Christmas season. Do you!! Strive for what is doable, do what makes sense for you and your family. Your holiday is not a contest with Pinterest or any other social media platform. Share the weight of preparations, delegate tasks and accept offers of help.
- Genuinely Think of Others – The holidays are not a magical time for everyone. Recognize the Spirit of Christmas is not shared proportionately. Some people associate negative feelings with the holidays for various reasons, separation from family and friends, financial issues or illness. Take the time to ask people how they are feeling, share your time and interest, and show that you care. What might only take moments of your time can have a long-lasting impact on others.
- Create New Traditions – Having new experiences can renew seasonal excitement for older family members and provide fun and informative opportunities for younger generations. There is a joy to be found in new holiday merry-making and updating long-standing traditional activities.
If you find yourself needing to speak with someone because you are experiencing a difficult time or require assistance for a family member, please visit our Family Mental Health webpage for various resources including the MFS US Family Counsellor and the Family Information Line (FIL) at 1-800-866-4546.
This holiday season find joy where you can, in the smile of a child, the melodious voice of a caroler or re-watching Elf, it’s a personal choice.
Wishing joy to the CAF community, your families, and every one of you.
