The Unbreakable Bonds: Nurturing Connection in Military Families.

As we enter the month of “love”, the MFS-NCR team wanted to talk about the inevitable realities and demands of military life, specifically when military families must navigate the emotional and practical challenges of being apart due to a work-related absence (deployment, imposed restrictions, and posting). In this article, we delve into the struggles faced by military families and explore the power of connection in supporting them through their journey.  

As we know, distance can make it difficult for couples and families to come together. The emotional burden of separation can lead to feelings of loneliness, anxiety and isolation, as families yearn for the presence and support of loved ones. Despite the myriad difficulties, fostering connections is essential to the well-being and resilience of military families.    

It's important to remind CAF members of what's waiting for them at home, not just during the vacations, but every day. Finding a special way to celebrate and maintain traditions can help all family members feel close and connected at all times. 

Tips on how to foster connection with a loved one: 

• Find a quiet and distraction-free space to talk and connect. Maintaining open communication within the family is essential. Regularly checking in with one another, expressing emotions, and actively listening can strengthen the bonds between a couple or family members. It is important for military families to create a safe and supportive environment where concerns and feelings can be shared. 

• If your military partner is posted somewhere with reliable internet, there is no reason you can’t have a virtual dinner, movie date or a board game. Set a time and sit down with your food or pick a movie and enjoy knowing that each of you is sharing the same experience at the same time.  

• Valentine’s Day is also an opportunity to teach children what the day is all about. Have an inside picnic with fun snacks and fancy drinks. You can even do some crafts around the theme of love.  It is not only a mindful holiday, you can also spend it with anyone you care about.  

• Reach out to your friends and support networks and take the time to plan an event outside of what you may normally do, for example, explore a new restaurant or find a new activity to try within your community.  

Resources and upcoming opportunities to look out for:  

• Stay tuned for our upcoming MFS-NCR group: "On your own, but not alone". This peer support group is a way to connect and exchange challenges associated with deployment and work-related absences. Each session will focus on the realities of deployments; the pits and peaks of life that happen when a loved one is away.   
• MFS-NCR is offering free Hold Me Tight online couples licenses. We are happy to offer you a license for this online couples’ program.  The virtual licenses to access the online Hold Me Tight program, to be able to complete at your convenience. The Hold Me Tight Program is an online self -paced interactive program designed for couples to complete at a time that is convenient for them. The program is divided into 8 sections. The online version allows couples to access the content of the program from their own private space and work through the content at their own pace. The time constraints to complete a section would be 60-90 minutes during a sitting.  

To know more about relationships, check out the following resources: CFMWS | Tip sheets | CFMWS 

• CFMWS provides support programs tailored specifically for military families. These programs offer resources, counseling, and social activities, creating an environment where families can connect with others who understand their experiences. 
• The advent of technology has made it easier for military families to connect virtually. Online communities and social media platforms provide a space for families to share their stories, seek support, and connect with others facing similar challenges. These platforms can bridge geographical gaps, help alleviate the sense of isolation, and foster a sense of belonging and camaraderie. 
• Getting involved in the local community on or off base can be an effective way for military families to build connections. Participating in community events, joining clubs or organizations, and volunteering can help families form bonds with their neighbours and create a support system.  
• Canadian military families face unique and often overlooked struggles. By utilizing resources, CFMWS Support Programs, online communities, getting involved in the local community, and maintaining open communication with loved ones and friends, military families can find solace, understanding and support. As a society, we must recognize and support the challenges faced by military families, ensuring they have the resources and connections necessary to thrive and flourish amidst the sacrifices they make for our country.