Adapting to your new reality

Many military families have experienced relocation and have had to adapt to new environments and a variety of different situations. For some, the concept of relocation can be exciting, a new adventure, or an opportunity to start fresh. For others, relocation can bring forth a sense of loss that can resemble the cycle of grief (e.g., loss of identity), anxiety and resentment.

As we recognize the diversity in military families and understand that each military family is unique in their formation and make up, we want to acknowledge the role of the partner in these military family dynamics.  

The realities of relocation can act as barriers to fulfilling our primitive needs: sense of belonging, connectedness, and safety. It can be daunting to (re)learn how to connect to these basic human needs. Regardless of where you are on your relocation journey, know that there is no right or wrong way to feel or experience emotions. 

While each experience is unique (to families/partners), there are commonalities in what it means to relocate amongst military families and opportunities to build community in shared realities. Here are some ideas that may help alleviate and cope with some of the changes:  

• Go out for out for a walk and explore your new surroundings  
• Get acquainted with your community- local shops, community centers, and social media platforms.  
• Find a new coffee shop 
• Find opportunities to laugh and connect with the community  
• Phone a friend 
• Create a new playlist 
• Connect to your local Military Family Services or Resource Center (MFS/MFRC)

For some, relocation can contribute to the onset of mental health challenges; the Mental Health Team at MFS-NCR provide short-term counselling.